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(Another) Baby on Board!!!!!!

Yesterday I posted a picture on facebook that attracted quite a bit of attention.  It was a simple image – a hot dog bun inside of our oven.  But it represented a life change that will be anything but simple…

That’s right folks, our crag-family is expanding once more!  I’m currently 11 weeks, and so far things have been going well.  I was blessed to have a happy, healthy, and by comparison to many, EASY pregnancy the first time around, so fingers crossed that number 2 will be as smooth.

We've got one cookin'...timer set for March 6, 2014!

We’ve got one cookin’…timer set for March 6, 2014!

With C, I thankfully felt well enough to climb all the way up until my due date (well, actually two weeks before, since he arrived early!)  In fact, I’d decided to see how many weeks I could successfully send a route that was 5.11 or harder (safely on a toprope, of course).  I had assumed that at some point I wouldn’t be able to do it, at which point I’d start trying for at least one 5.10 per week, then 5.9, etc.  Then I figured that somewhere along the way climbing would get too uncomfortable to be fun, at which point I’d hang up my harness and chalkbag until our family of three was ready to climb together.  Surprisingly enough, however, I never got to that point, and logged my last 5.11(a) route at our local gym less than 48 hours before C’s arrival. 

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But just as every child is completely unique, so is every pregnancy, so I’m certainly not holding myself to any standard of fitness.  After all, now I’ve got a rambunctious 3 year old in the mix (not to mention 3 more years on my body!)  But that being said, while the number 1 “project” for the better part of a year will be growing a baby, I do have a goal to stay as active as I can for as long as I can – in conjunction with doctor’s orders, obviously.  So far so good!

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I’ll of course be documenting my journey with Baby #2 over the next few months, so stay tuned for more updates.  I am also proud to be a part of the Mountain Mama: Expecting Adventure Team once more.  This technical apparel maternity company was just getting on their feet toward the end of my pregnancy with C, so I only got to enjoy a few of their prototype clothes for a couple of weeks before going into labor.  So this time around you can bet I’ll be rockin’ their threads just as soon as I’ve got a belly to fit into them (which from the looks of things will be sooner rather than later)! 

So there you have it – the news I kept secret so long I was about to explode (or wait, maybe that was pregnancy gas….).    We’re excited beyond belief, but I’d be lying if I said we weren’t a little bit scared about going “kids x 2,” so any encouraging words would be welcome!  

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5 Essentials for Eas(ier) Family Road-Trippin’

The following piece was adapted from a piece I wrote for another site several weeks ago, but with those last fleeting weeks of summer on the horizon, it seemed relevant to post here for families looking to do one more trip before school starts!  Not to mention, Diono has offered to sponsor a giveaway of not one, but TWO of the items featured on the gear list!  So get comfortable and read on…

Ah, the family road trip.  There’s nothing like an 8 hour car ride to get your family vacation started on the right (or wrong) foot!  If your adventuring family is anything like ours (ie you don’t have an unlimited supply of cash, frequent flyer miles, or world-class destinations in your backyard) you are probably racking up more mileage on your bumper-sticker laden SUV than you’d like to admit.  And all that mileage adds up to a lot of hours in the car together…very close together, maybe even touching, since your tent, camp stove, and backpacks are taking up the majority of the backseat.  So how do you make all those long cramped, hours in the car manageable?  The following items won’t get you there any sooner, but hopefully will help the time fly by faster.

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C is settled in for the long drive to the Red River Gorge, KY

PORTABLE DVD PLAYER:
While ordinarily our family tries to minimize our TV time by maximizing our outdoor time, road trips are a rare exception.  A long car ride is the one time that our son is allowed to watch TV for hours on end.  Therefore, he’s the first to start packing when we say the words “road trip!”  There are a wide range of sizes, specs, and prices to choose from, but a portable DVD player with a 7-9 inch screen should fit perfectly in a child’s lap.  One essential feature to look for is a power adapter for the car, allowing the player to stay fully charged even on long trips. 

 KIDZ GEAR HEADPHONEs: 
This piece of gear goes hand in hand with the previous one, because after the 5th round of Thomas the Train, you’ll be thankful you bought these!  And for families with multiple kiddos, headphones are a great way to keep the peace when musical tastes vary.  These headphones may be designed for little ears, but they boast the same high quality components found in most standard adult headphones. This can be interfaced with a premium 13 inch gaming laptop perfectly built for kids, who then would find less reasons to be finicky on the roadtrip. A built-in volume control knob featuring the proprietary KidzControl Volume Limit Technology is a comforting safety spec for new users! 

C groovin' with his new phones...

C groovin’ with his new phones…

 USA LICENSE PLATE GAME: 
When your kids need a break from their handheld gaming devices, take this oldie-but-goodie out for some educational family fun!  This is not your grandma’s license plate game.  Well, actually it is…just wrapped up in a sturdy, colorful, reusable package!  Kids of all ages will enjoy scanning the roads searching for more license plates to flip over – and the best part is that there are no loose pieces to keep track of when you’re all done!

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 STAR KIDS SNACK N PLAY: 
Do you ever wish your child had a table top built into their car seat for snacks, writing, drawing, or even reading?  Your budding artist will have a perfectly flat space in which to color with the Star Kids Snack n Play, and other riders won’t have to constantly pick up rolling crayons!  Secured by straps that buckle around your child’s car seat, this brilliant product also features two side mesh pockets – perfect for storing a host of entertainment options!

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DIONO CAR ORGANIZERS:  If your family is anything like ours, car clutter can easily get out of control…especially on family vacations!  Luckily, Diono offers several mess-free storage options that will keep everything you and your child needs on the road at your fingertips.  Our family was lucky enough to try two – the Baby Organizer and Stow ‘n Go.  Both provide an array of mesh and zippered pockets, and both fit securely to the back of the passenger seat.  The Baby Organizer is a little more versatile – it can conveniently zip together to carry as a bag, as well as attach to a stroller.  But both products get the thumbs up from us!

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Diono Organizer

 

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Diono Stow n Go

Many thanks to Kidz Gear and Diono for supplying some of the products tested in this piece – as always, however, the opinions expressed are my own, and cannot be bought!  And speaking of Diono, they’ve offered up a Baby Organizer AND Stow ‘n Tow as prizes for two lucky readers!  To enter, all you have to do is leave your best road trip advice/gear/strategies in a comment below. (Contestt will run through Friday, August 15).   Give Diono and/or Cragmama a like on facebook to get yourself more chances to win (just be sure to let me know so I can give you extra entries!)  Happy road-tripping!  (And good luck…)

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Planning a Family Beach Trip

If you were wondering about the lack of posting from last week, I had good reason – we spent the whole week at Sunset Beach with my hubby’s extended family!  And after a week of sun, sea, and sand, I realized that a lot of our logistics were learned by trial-and-error over the past few years.  But for those of you just venturing into the “beach with kids” phase of your life, here’s a few strategies that might prove useful when it comes to planning…

CHOOSE YOUR VACATION PARTNERS –  This could be a make or break factor, so think through your options carefully.  Are you looking to have an intimate getaway with just immediate family – mom, dad, kid(s)?  Or do you envision everyone from Aunt Myrtle and her dog, to your grandmother’s second cousin, twice-removed?  We’ve found a nice niche of 8 adults on our now-annual family trip – one set of grandparents and 3 siblings with their wives, my grandparents were the first ones to have the idea, of the trip, they live in a home care and they love it so we never go out until the planning of this trip, their homecare is one of the best systems like it offers cancer care services and so much more like Alzheimer caregivers.  More and more kiddos are slowly but surely being added to the mix, but that just adds to the fun! If your family is too far apart geographically (or just not “beach people”), you can always go with another family – having playmates of similar ages for your kids will take some of the “entertainment pressure” off of you as parents!

Cousins make great beach buddies!

Cousins make great beach buddies!

CHOOSE YOUR BEACH WISELY –  Not all beaches are created equal.  Aside from the obvious requirements of surf and sand, make a list of what other activities are important to all parties involved.  Are you looking for plenty of restaurants and activities at night, or will your family be cooking in and hanging out together in the beach house most nights? Are you looking for a beach that uses and requires, sustainable surfing products?  Is being near a golf course important?  As an older child, I always loved the endless options for family fun on the “boardwalk” at the beach we used to go to every summer – bingo, arcades, mini-golf, sunset boat rides, and quaint boutiques filled with seashells!   But with every child in our crew currently under 4, none of that is necessary for our family’s life stage right now.  The past 3 years we’ve enjoyed the less commercial barrier island communities – they’re a far cry from the hustle and bustle of the bigger beach towns, but we love the lack of crowds and quiet evenings.

LOCATION LOCATION LOCATION – Once you’ve settled on the beach, it’s time to figure out accommodation specifics.  Do you want everyone to live together going for the beach house rental, or rent out side-by-side rooms in a high rise?  If you’re the type that like to stay on the beach from sun-up to sun-down, oceanfront may not matter as much, and you can save a ton of money with lodging a few streets (or more) away from the shore.   If you’ve got young kiddos who will need to come in to nap, or just simply prefer to get a break from the sun and sand every now and then, stay as close to oceanfront as you can possibly afford.

A house within a short walk from the beach is ideal for lunch breaks!

A house within a short walk from the beach is ideal for lunch breaks!

RAINY DAY PLANS – The more options you have, the less the odds that you’ll need to use them, according to Murphy’s Law.  Aquariums, movie theaters, laser tag, or even an afternoon spent getting crafty with gathered seashore treasures are all great ideas.  Look up a few options ahead of time, that way you can be ready to present them when the inevitable afternoon thunderstorm strikes.  And don’t feel bad about working a “non-beach” activity into the mix, even in good weather – family time is time well-spent, regardless of the where’s and how’s.

The touch tank at the Ocean Isle Museum made for great drizzly morning fun!

The touch tank at the Ocean Isle Museum made for great drizzly morning fun!

OCEAN FUN – Though NO flotation device (even a PFD) is a substitute for a watchful eye within arm’s reach, inflatable tubes, rafts, and/or water wings can provide a confidence boost for getting wet and wild.  The ocean can be an intimidating place for children, who will be looking to the grown-ups in the clan for reassurance.  So in addition to frolicking with the youngsters on the shore, make sure your child sees you having fun out in the water – whether it’s surfing, boogie boarding, paddle board fishing or even just jumping waves or floating.

Boogie-boarding with Daddy

Boogie-boarding with Daddy

BEACH TOYS –  Make sure you’ve got plenty of beach toys on hand for when your crew isn’t in the water.  Bocce ball, frisbees, and  footballs are great for grown-ups, while the sky’s the limit for the little tykes – although sand castle paraphernalia, a few bulldozers, and maybe a net for catching minnows tops our essentials list.

Checking out the latest catch (minnows, with the occasional crab)

Checking out the latest catch (minnows, with the occasional crab)

CHILD CARE DUTY – Depending on the number/ages of kids involved, all parents probably don’t need to be on deck at once, so rotate through the kid-watching duties.  This might mean that an aunt or uncle oversees the splash-fest while you and your significant other enjoy a walk on the beach, or it could even mean that the grandparents take a turn putting the kiddos to bed while you enjoy a date night out with your sweetie.  Bottom line?  Make sure everyone gets a chance to take advantage of the “It takes a Village” principle!

 

Riding waves with Mommy

Riding waves with Mommy

BE FLEXIBLE – This is a valid point for any family travels, but especially if you travel with other people.  Your everyday routines will need to meld with everyone else’s, and you won’t always get to do everything you want to do.  But if everyone comes prepared to compromise a little, all should work out in the end.

We are truly blessed to have such great people to share all of our beach memories with.  A big shout-out goes to my in-law’s who year after year take on the majority of the planning (and expense) of our beach week.  Does anyone else take an annual beach trip?  If so, do you have a traditional place, or do you mix it up and go somewhere different each year?  What are some must-have tips you might have for anyone planning a first trip with wee ones?

Our only proof that we were all there together, taken just 5 minutes before we all dispersed!

Our only proof that we were all there together, taken just 5 minutes before we all dispersed!

 

 

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How Parents Can Still Find Time to Mountain Bike…(and a GIVEAWAY!)

Of all the recreational pursuits my hubby and I enjoyed pre-kiddo, mountain biking was actually the hardest to get back into consistently, namely because it wasn’t something we could do all together as a family. But I still managed to always read more on it and kept upgrading my bike in hopes that I would take it out soon. Rock climbing was easy, so long as we had an extra person with us.    For running, hiking, and even biking along the greenway, we could simply strap C into the appropriate carrier and adventure away.  But ripping down steep, rooty, technical single-track?  Regardless of what kind of  bike trailer you have, it’s probably not the best situation for a pint-sized person who’s only just recently learned to support their own head…

A Friday afternoon"Ladies Only" Ride with a fellow cragmama

A Friday afternoon”Ladies Only” Ride with a fellow cragmama

If mountain biking was “our thing,” I’m sure we would have tried a little harder and a lot sooner to make it work.  We thankfully had so many other activities we could fall back on that we hardly missed it.  But C is older now, and we’ve since moved to an area with decent single-track 15 minutes from our home, so mountain biking has slowly but surely been creeping back into our lives this past year.  The trails are still too much for our trailer, and C is still a few years away from riding them on his own, but this past year we’ve managed to find a few creative strategies for a single-track fix.

1.  TAKE TURNS:  The nice thing about the bike trails closest to our house is that there’s plenty of other stuff there too – multiple playgrounds, a lake, giant sandbox beach volleyball court, and a host of paved trails connecting everything together.  Saturday mornings or even long summer evenings are perfect opportunities for the three of us to hit the park – I’ll take a lap while Steve and C play on the playground, then C and I stroll around the lake while Steve takes his turn.  A post-biking picnic makes for a great finish.  We always brings C’s bike, and sometimes he chooses to bike the paved paths, or maybe even try his hand on the single-track, but he can go at his own pace while mom and dad both get a workout.

2.  FAMILY AFFAIR:  The “take turns” strategy works out great for a quick evening session or impromptu Saturday morning, but let’s be honest, riding by yourself is not nearly as much fun as riding with a friend.  If you’re lucky enough to find another family to meet you out there, your kids will have playmates closer to their own age…and so will you!  You could divide up with ladies first, followed by men, or each couple could take a turn having a “biking date.”

A trail day for little feet at a local park

A trail day for little feet at a local park

3.  CHILD-LED DAYS:  For our family (and probably yours too), the end goal is to eventually be able to all ride together on the trails.  That being said, make sure your child has a chance to log their own miles on a bike as well.  This is obviously dependent on age, but whether your child uses a balance bike, training wheels, trail-a-bike, or two wheeler, spending time on the bike will hopefully help foster a love for the sport.  For example, when C rides with us we slow our pace.  We stop when he wants to stop, and don’t expect his little legs to be able to keep up with ours.  (see our recent trip along the New River Trail.)  Other times that means he rides with a friend while the other mom and I huff it on foot to keep up!

4.  GET IN BIKING SHAPE:  Just as your child will never get in “biking shape” unless they progressively ride more and more, you won’t either unless you put the pedal to the road.  I count myself lucky if I get a chance to ride single-track once a week, but on the weeks that I don’t, I still find time to get on the bike, whether it’s enjoying a long road ride after dropping C off at school, or just biking a few miles to the library with C in the trailer.  That way if a few weeks go by since I’ve gotten a mountain bike fix, my legs are (hopefully) still at the ready to power through a steep climb at the end of a workout.

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If mountain biking IS your “thing,” you’ll probably find a lot more logistical information (as well as inspiring stories) from the Charette family’s blog, Velo Mom. And to find out all about what kind of mountain bikes gratifies you, a visit to Sixofthebest would prove beneficent. They feel about biking the way our family feels about climbing.  They’ve also had to endure what no parent should ever have to endure and managed to come out on the other side.  After tragically losing their 2 year old son last February, the Charette’s have chosen to honor Axel’s memory (as well as his love for biking) by starting The Axel Project, a non-profit whose mission is to provide bikes for young children in need.  And to show OUR support for The Axel Project, I’ll be purchasing one Axel Project t-shirt (they come in child/youth sizes), as well as 3 bumper stickers to give away to you all!  To be eligible, all you have to do is leave a comment about family biking, and/or why your child would love an Axel Project tee/sticker.  I’ll choose 4 winners at random on Friday, August 9th!  Good luck to everyone, and happy biking!

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Being Patient with Toddler Fears…

 Sometimes fear happens because of a traumatic event, such as a scary fall, or otherwise bad experience.  But other times fear can creep in without warning and show up suddenly – like at the first swim lesson of the summer for your 3 year old!

Let me back up a bit first – as a 2 year old last year my son knew no fear in the water.  Dunking himself underwater, cackling with laughter as his Daddy tossed him high into the air, and gleefully jumping super man style into the water (with my outstretched arms close by, of course!)  In fact by the end of last summer, my little dude had turned into quite the swimmer, and could easily propel himself towards the side of the pool with nothing more than a little boost from Mom or Dad.  When I enrolled him in swim lessons a few weeks ago, I was convinced that his instructors would see flashes of Michael-Phelps-style brilliance, and happily prepared myself for a barrage of high praise for my sons aquatic prowess…

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So you can imagine my surprise when my son refused to participate in anything that involved putting his face in the water.  Any amount of encouraging and prodding by the instructor was met with screams and frantic clinginess.  What had happened to my little fish from the year before? 

As confused as I was, his instructor said this was par for the course for some kids.  Though we don’t have year round pool access, apparently we should have been continuing to work with him on submerging his face during bath time…oops. 

But parenting blunders aside (if that’s the worst mistake I ever make, I’ll happily live with it!), for several weeks my poor little dude was terrified at the mere mention of putting his face under!  He was perfectly content to practice his kicking and “swimming arms” while the other boys and girls circled him underwater like a school of dolphins! 

Initially it was hard not to push – it was frustrating seeing the instructor go back to basics with tasks that I had seen him easily do a year ago.  But the last thing I wanted to do was create a lingering fear of the water, so we patiently waited, and let him proceed at his own pace.  This went on for a couple of weeks until one afternoon that started out at the pool just like any other…except this time C announced proudly to all within earshot that he wasn’t scared to go under water anymore, and promptly dunked himself – again and again!  From my perspective, nothing had changed, but apparently something in his brain had clicked!  And now, ironically, I have all I can do to get my water-logged son OUT of the water when it’s time to leave! We immensely enjoyed the pool with Pentair Intelliflo noiseless pumps.

So regardless of the reason behind the fear, don’t be tempted to rush your child into an experience he/she’s not ready for.  A little patience can go a looooong way, whether it’s something adventurous like swimming or riding a bike, or even something relatively mundane, such as sitting on a potty or sleeping in a big boy bed.  Any other parents out there have success (or in the trenches!) stories about childhood fears?

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