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My Little Man is THREE!!!!!

I love this guy!  :)

I love this guy! 🙂

How in the world did this happen?  One day I’m staying up all night with marathon nursing sessions.  Then when I finally go to sleep I wake up and he’s running into his classroom without so much as an afterthought glance in my direction!  Ok ok maybe it didn’t happen EXACTLY like that, but some days it seems like it!  Fortunately for us, we’ve been blessed to have shared hundreds upon thousands of wonderful memories with our little Cragbaby these past three years, who most CERTAINLY has graduated to Crag-Kiddo status at this point! 

Lightning McQueen!

Lightning McQueen!

I’ve been doing a lot of reflection recently about how precious and fleeting life can be, as well as why we have chosen the lifestyle that we have for our family.  You can go back and read those posts here and here if you’d like, but I’d like to keep today’s post short, light, and sweet so I can spend the whole day celebrating with my little man!  After all you only turn 3 once…and besides, we’ve got 18 more Lightning McQueen cupcakes to pass out to friends today! 

In addition to the Crag-Kiddo’s birthday, today is also special because it marks the first day of spring!  And I say bring it on!  What special fun is YOUR family cooking up this spring?

 

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How to be a Great Belayer

Behind every great climber is a great belayer :)

Behind every great climber is a great belayer 🙂

There’s a whole host of resources available online and in print aimed at how to successfully climb harder, stronger, higher.  However, there’s only a fraction of information available for another crucial, yet often overlooked skill that is vital to every good send: the art of belaying.  Sure, most climbers, even newbies, have a basic knowledge of how the belay system works, and understand how to use a belay device of their choosing.  They can most likely pass a belay test at their local gym and can handle the number one priority for a belayer – keep the climber off the ground.  That’s good.  You should never leave the ground tied in with someone you don’t think can at least do that.  But there’s a lot more to it than that if you want to be a really GREAT belayer.  What’s the incentive?  Besides the obvious (keeping your climber as safe as they can possibly be), a great belayer doesn’t go unnoticed.  Gain a reputation for giving a good catch, and you’ll never have to scramble to find a climbing partner again!  I know that for me personally, the closer I get to my limit, the pickier I get about who’s going to give me a catch, especially if there’s a scary clip or a long runout involved on the climb.  So whether you’re new to the sport and looking to improve your skills, or just want to be everyone’s go-to-guy (gal) for their projects, here’s some tips for turning a good belayer into a GREAT belayer.

1.  COMMUNICATION.  Work out logistics with your climber before they leave the ground to make sure you’re on the same page with regards to lowering or rappelling for single pitch routes.  In multi-pitch situations, where hearing one another may be difficult, you may need to develop a few non-verbal commands (such as X number of rope tugs) to denote on and off belay commands. 

2.  ENCOURAGEMENT.  Don’t be afraid to let your climber know that you’re there for him/her.  My hubby can tell by my body language when I’m hesitating or nervous, and he’s always quick to shout, “Fall’s safe, go for it!”  My friend Sam will say without fail in a crux sequence, “You’ve got this, I’m right here with you.”  Knowing that a belayer is completely focused on the task at hand, rather than daydreaming about their own project might just be the confidence boost you need to power through a tough sequence.   

A belayer receives extra points for color-coordinating with their climber...

A belayer receives extra points for color-coordinating with their climber…

3.  GIVE A GOOD CATCH.  Usually, an airy, soft catch is preferable to a violent whipper into the wall.  It can turn potential broken bones into stomach-dropping featherbed landings.  Many belayers have a natural tendency to sit back and hold their position without budging when they see a climber about to fall.  Unless you want to whip your climber into the wall at mach speed, do not do this.  Instead of acting in opposition to your climber, gently shift your weight forward to provide some “give” in the system.  If the fall is clean and your climber is high off the ground, resist the urge to yank the extra slack out of the system – simply lock off where you’re at and allow yourself to be pulled.  The shock from the fall will be scattered throughout the entire system – easier on the climber, easier on the gear.  If there’s a substantial difference in weight between belayer and climber, you may need to take a few extra precautions.

  • Lighter belayer, heavier climber.  If the belayer is lighter than the climber, it’s virtually impossible to give a hard catch, since the belayer will be lifted into the air.  Don’t fight it, just go with it.  (And make sure you’re standing directly under the route as opposed to several feet away from the base, so you just get yanked UP rather than IN.)  If, however, the belayer is outweighed by a lot (such as the 100 pound difference between my hubby and I), other measures might be necessary.  It’s normally not recommended for a belayer to anchor in (you can’t get out of the way of potential loose rock, and it can make for a jarring fall to your climber and your gear).  But in our case he will literally fly right past me as I get sucked up into the first piece of protection.  Unless he is very high on a route, there is a very real danger of him hitting the ground if I’m not careful.  Our solution is for me to anchor in as close to the base as I can VERY LOOSELY.  This allows for plenty of give in the system while still enabling a controlled catch. 
  • Heavier belayer, lighter  climber.  On the other hand, if you’re belaying a much lighter climber, you will have to make a conscious effort to provide a soft catch.  Some people do this by stepping forward as the climber is falling, others give a well-timed jump.  Attention small climbers: Don’t be afraid to make your preferences known to your belayer, as it’s your body that will bear the brunt of a jarring catch, not their’s.

Note:  If there is a ledge or protruding rock/tree in your climber’s landing zone, this “soft catch” technique might only make matters worse.  ALWAYS be on the lookout for obstacles that might get in the way in the instance of a fall and give and take up slack accordingly. 

Crag-Daddoo giving an attentive belay in Spearfish Canyon, SD

Crag-Daddoo giving an attentive belay in Spearfish Canyon, SD

4.  PAY ATTENTION.  If you see your climber doing something that looks weird, don’t be afraid to speak up.  Don’t assume that they realize the rope is behind their leg, or that they “meant” to back clip that last draw.  Better to say something needlessly and feel a little silly if you’re wrong than to hold your tongue and regret not being able to prevent an accident! 

5.  DON’T SHORT-ROPE.  Anticipate when your climber is going to reach down so that you can time your slack with their clip.  Nothing is more frustrating than reaching down to pull up rope in a tenuous clip to find that your belayer is not doling out enough slack!  Be especially careful during traverses – if you keep your climber too tight, you can pull them off the wall, but keep them too loose and your climber runs the risk of stepping on the rope.

When it comes right down to it, belaying is a lot more than just holding a belay device.  When you tie in with another climber, you hold that person’s life in your hands (literally), and they are counting on you to use good judgment.  I’ve definitely been in situations where a good belay kept a scary fall from potentially causing injury, and while I’ve thankfully never been hurt because of a bad belay, I’ve certainy had my fair share of unpleasant catches (usually from big dudes that stand as still as soldiers when I fall.)  Don’t forget that when you’re dealing with a new partner that’s never belayed you before, it’s perfectly acceptable to discuss how you like to be belayed – any partner worth climbing with will listen to your requests.  And if for whatever reason you have your doubts about someone, get someone else to catch you, or come back another day.  Again, better safe than sorry!  (And on a somewhat related note, if you’re in the market for a new belay device, check out the Cinch!)

To the other climbers out there, what qualities are most important to you in a belayer?  What makes one particular person a “go-to” over someone else on a hard onsight or a project?

 

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A SQUOOSHI Review – and a GIVEAWAY!

 

Double-fisting on the trail...

Double-fisting on the trail…

My kid will eat his body weight in fruit, but there are very few vegetables that he will tolerate, so those pouches of pureed fruit/veggie mixes (known as “squeezies” at our house) are a staple for C.  What I like about them is that they are a fast, mess-free way to get some good nutrition into a wiggly body that’s constantly on the go.  What I dislike about them is that they are really expensive and generate a lot of trash.  It was especially frustrating back in C’s younger days when I was making batches upon batches of fresh, homemade baby food – it seemed silly to substitute something pre-packaged, but it was significantly more convenient.  Thus disposable “squeezies” (usually the cheaper Target brand) became one of the essentials in our food bag on climbing weekends. 

But you can imagine my excitement upon finding a company that made REUSABLE pouches!  What a concept – the convenience of a disposable that’s easier on your wallet and the landfill!  Squooshi pouches come in 2 different sizes, 2.5 and 4 ounces, and the sky is the limit with what you can put in them – any combination of fruit, veggie, legume, grain, and dairy can make a tasty (and wholesome!) snack!  The cap is designed to be choke-proof and easy to twist off for little fingers.  They come in fun, brightly-colored animal designs, and work exactly the same for your toddler as their disposable counterparts.  But the magic is found in the Ziploc style seal at the bottom – just open the pouch, pour in your homemade squishy mix of choice (recipes found here), and reseal!  

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During the week we keep them on hand in the fridge so we can grab one on the go.  On climbing days our strategy is to throw some cold ones in the pack for morning consumption, along with some frozen ones that will be perfectly thawed by the afternoon.  When we get home we just open the seal at the bottom, take the cap off, and rinse the insides out with warm, soapy water!  (They are also safe to put in the dishwasher, let’s say if you accidentally left one under the couch cushions for a week…hypothetically of course 😉 ) 

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Which one to choose first?!?

I will say that there is a learning curve with regards to homemade squeezie-making (or maybe I’m just dumb in the kitchen, which is entirely possible).  It took me a while to get the  consistency and portion sizes right – ideally it should be similar to applesauce.  My first attempt, while a tasty rendition of strawberries, bananas, and kefir, came out far too thin, and with so much extra that C and I split an 8 ounce smoothie with the leftovers.  Our second try was much better – 1 cup fresh mango, 8 strawberries, and a splash of honey was just right for our set of Squooshis – 2 large and 2 small. 

I so wish I would have discovered this product sooner, but I’m glad we’ve got it now and I’m THRILLED to be able to give a set of Squooshi’s away for one lucky winner!  All you have to do is leave a comment about your family’s strategies for squeezing in more fruits and veggies into your kids (and as always, liking Cragmama or Squooshi on facebook will get you multiple entries!)  The contest will run through Sunday, March 17th, when a winner will be chosen at random.  Best of luck!

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In Memory of Axel Charrette

Jen with a much younger Kalden and Axel on the bike trail. (Credit Velomom.com)

Jen with a much younger Kalden and Axel on the bike trail. (Credit Velomom.com)

Ordinarily I’m very organized with the writing for this blog.  Initial thoughts may pour out of my head in a jumble, but by the time the words hit the page and I hit publish, they are constructed into nice and neat little packages.  Once I’m satisfied with the end product, the post goes into the queue, poised on deck until the timing is right.  But this post is not like other posts.  This is the hardest post I have EVER had to write.  As my thoughts fill up this screen my eyes fill up with tears, and as the words come together, they still don’t make any sense.  And I am certainly not satisfied with the outcome.   But I feel compelled to share, as I’ve found that my heart is most open to learning (and healing) when my emotions are still raw and vulnerable. 

There’s no sugar-coated way to say this – a friend and colleague of mine is right in the middle of what can only be described as every parent’s worst nightmare.  One of my fellow Adventure Moms, Jen Charette (aka Velo Mom), has been on a “digital nomadic” adventure since last October, when their family of 4 rented their Colorado house and took to the open road.  Between homeschooling their oldest boy and working remotely to keep the bills paid, Jen was always quick to say that her current lifestyle was not a “vacation,” but rather a constant family adventure that took a lot of work and planning.  Their family was spending the winter in Sayulita, Mexico, and I had enjoyed reading her updates about surfing, biking, and bonding as a family. 

But last Monday morning, as I was snuggling with my little guy per our usual morning ritual, I reached over to grab my phone, scrolling through my facebook newsfeed.  I was shocked to see Jen’s facebook status – it said that her youngest son Axel “was killed in Sayulita, Mexico on 2/28.”  It took a few hours for this devastating news to sink in.  Slowly but surely reports started trickling in with more details, each one painting a more horrific picture than the last.  You can go to this online source to find out what happened, but I can’t bring myself to type it out here.  Besides, this post is about remembering Axel’s life, not the tragic events surrounding his death.

Axel at his first "bike race."

Axel scoping the competition at his first “bike race.” (Credit Velomom.com)

I’ve been trying to wrap my head around this all week, and no matter how hard I try, I keep coming up empty.  Every time I try to put myself in the Charrette’s shoes it feels like my heart is being ripped out of my chest.  Just the thought of it and I can’t breathe.  And I’m sure that I cannot even begin to comprehend the pain they are being forced to endure right now.  As someone who has always used words to vent, understand, encourage, and express myself to others, I have found myself struggling to find even one word that seemed appropriate to offer up in support.  Somehow well-meaning phrases such as “sorry for your loss” just don’t seem to cut it.  Things like this just aren’t supposed to happen, and there’s no magic words or formula that can make it all go away.    

But that being said, throughout all of the feelings of sadness, fear, anger, and confusion that have prompted my prayers for this family all week, there has been one glimmer of peace that kept popping up.  And that was the thought of sweet Axel’s life – though from our perspective it seems to have been snuffed out far too soon, it was certainly a life well-lived.  In fact, it’s probably safe to say that Axel packed more adventures into his 2 short years on this earth than many grown-ups have in a lifetime!  And that my friends, is a blessing that should not be discounted.  I am so thankful that Axel was born into a family that adored him and gave him a chance to experience life to the fullest.  And in turn, I’m thankful for the time that the rest of the Charrettes family and friends were able to spend with Axel.  Regardless of the pain and suffering that family is having to endure, I know that each of their lives are far better for having shared it with Axel, even if it was just for a fleeting moment.

A recent picture of Axel in Mexico

A recent, beautiful picture of Axel in Mexico (Credit Velomom.com)

Do I believe that God has a sovereign plan and that He is control?  Undoubtedly.  Do I believe that God can use this horrifically painful situation for His glory?  Yes I do.  But I also know that healing for this family will be a life long journey..  This post is not intended to be a Band-Aid to cover up vulnerable emotions.  This tragedy is just one small example that we live in a broken world, and on this earth their family will never be healed completely.  But without knowing what to do with my own thoughts and emotions, it seemed more productive to focus on the love in this story rather than the hate.   My prayer for the Charrettes is that they will somehow find a way to do the same – to lean in to God and cling tightly to each other during this time of unspeakable anguish.  That they won’t close themselves off to each other or to the support they are receiving and will continue to receive from family and friends.  And if I’m being completely honest, I’m also (perhaps selfishly) praying that I won’t ever have to experience something as horrible as losing my son, but I am very thankful that there’s a Heavenly Father who has. 

If you would like to reach out to the Charrettes, please feel free to leave your own words of prayer and/or support in the comments below.  A memorial service is being held today (March 12)  in Ridgway, Colorado.  The Charrettes have also set up a fund in Axel’s name that will be used to get more kids active and on bikes.  With the support of Strider Bikes, they hope to share Axel’s passion for riding with other kids that might otherwise not have had the opportunity.  If you would like to donate, you can send a check made out to the Axel Charrette Fund, c/o Alpine Bank, 119 Liddell Drive, Ridgway, CO 81432, or call 970-626-4100 and reference the Axel Charrette Fund. 

As we all know but so often take for granted, none of us are promised tomorrow.  Our response should not be one of fear, but rather one of gratitude, and a desire to make the most out of the time we are given.  So take an opportunity today to tell a family member or friend that you love them.  And for those of you that are parents, it probably goes without saying to hug your children extra tight today.  🙁

 

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Strategies for Rainy Day Climbing (with a Toddler!)

All decked out in our rain gear on a typical spring weekend at the New River Gorge!

All decked out in our rain gear on a typical spring weekend at the New River Gorge!

In just a few short weeks it’ll be springtime again.  I can picture it now – buds will begin to sprout up in the garden, the birds start singling a little louder, and the days start getting a little longer.  Oh yeah and it rains.  All the time.  Actually that’s not true.  It doesn’t rain ALL the time.  The typical m.o. in the Southeast is for the skies to be bright and sunny all week, with clouds moving in on Friday afternoon, just in time to thoroughly soak your newest objective at the local crag.  But before you’re tempted to cancel that trip you’ve been planning for weeks in favor of pulling on plastic in the gym (AGAIN!), take a look at these tips for making the most of a wet and wild day of family craggin’…

DRESS FOR SUCCESS:  When it comes to playing outdoors, our family generally adopts the mindset that there is no such thing as bad weather, only bad gear.  In our household we’re firm believers that if you are dressed appropriately, you can have fun outside in whatever Mother Nature decides to send your way.  Good rain gear for the ENTIRE family is a must.  Grown-ups might be able to get by with nothing more than a hooded rain jacket (but I promise once you try a pair of rain pants you won’t ever go without!)  That’s because we tend to not sit directly in the mud…probably not the case for your child!  Full-body coverage is a MUST!  The Crag-kiddo has used rain suits from 2 different brands, both of which we would recommend – Oakiwear (cheaper, but a little less durable, review here), and Ducksday (a little more expensive, but more durable and more versatile, review here).

A little rainy day guidebook research...

A little rainy day guidebook research…

PROTECT YOUR ESSENTIALS:  It’s darn near impossible to spend a rainy day outside with kids and stay completely dry.  But who cares?  Neither of you are made of sugar, so you won’t melt!  Rest assured, a rainy day will undoubtedly bother you much more than your kiddo, provided you are able to keep him/her warm (and eventually dry!)  Your gear, however, might be a different story.  Nothing cuts a day short like throwing your wet jacket onto your pack and having the water soak all the way through to your diaper stash (ask me how I know…)  For items that cannot under any circumstances get wet (diapers, extra set of clothing, camera), bring a dry bag.  Better yet, get a rain cover for your kid carrier.  All of the major brands have some sort of rain cover built in or offered as an additional purchase.  Learn how to set it up quickly BEFORE you get stranded at the cliff in a passing band of summer showers. 

CHOOSE YOUR CRAG WISELY:  I’ve stayed dry many an afternoon in a steady downpour, and I’ve also had my fair share of bails within 30 minutes of a light rain.  It all depends on the crag – the terrain, the type of rock, sun/shade aspect, etc.  Do a little research beforehand, whether that means digging through guidebooks, talking to locals, or scouring comments on Mountain Project.  Generally speaking,  the steepest, most overhanging (and often most difficult) terrain tends to be the last to get wet.  But this is not always true – a moderate line that finishes beneath an enormous capped roof might never see so much as a drop of rain!  Some crags stay dry for the first couple of hours of rain, but then water starts to seep through the cracks, whereas other areas may be unclimbable initially, but will literally dry off in minutes with some sun and a slight breeze.  Every crag is different, and you’ll probably do most of your learning by trial and error. 

Soggy approach...but believe it or not, plenty of dry rock!

Soggy approach…but believe it or not, plenty of dry rock!

PLACE YOUR BETS:  Staying one step ahead of the weather is always a gamble.  I’ve gone to the New River Gorge expecting an all day washout only to see clear, sunny skies.  I’ve also been stormed off the rock at 10 am with only a 10% chance of rain.  You can play it by ear to a point, but sometimes you just have to commit one way or the other.  The weather will be what it’s going to be, but so long as you’re prepared, it doesn’t have to make or break your day! 

MODEL A GOOD ATTITUDE:   Don’t ever forget that your child has an “agenda” at the crag too, one that is much less weather-dependent.  I know it doesn’t matter to C whether the holds are wet or dry, but he does care whether I’m happy or sad.  So the next time you get stuck in the rain and are tempted to complain, stop.  Take your child by the hand and go splash in a puddle.  Laugh, jump, and get wet.  The rock will always be there, but those tender teachable moments with your 2, 4, 6 year old are as fleeting as those April showers.

Sometimes unexpected weather brings out unexpected discoveries!

Sometimes unexpected weather brings out unexpected discoveries!

Some days you can force it, but other days it’s just not meant to be.  Climbing is a fun thing, but if it’s you’re ONLY thing, you may wind up disappointed down the road…but that’s for another post.  My advice?  Take a chance on a sketchy weather forecast every now and then.  Go prepared and with an open mind, and I’d be willing to bet you’ll still have a lot more fun than you would sitting at home on the couch eating Oreo’s and watching climbing videos. 

How does your family handle climbing trips with potentially rainy weather?  Do you go anyway and make the most of it, wait to the very last minute to decide, or play it safe and stay home?  Feel free to share any rain-related family mishaps at the crag in the comments section below…

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